ANGER FREE LIFE

Many things cause different people anger. A man could be angry for thinking wrong thoughts.For instance,a man may be angry with his parents for not given him good education without considering that his poor parents lacked the money to do so and that the state did not make provision for free education.
He bemoans his world,blaming his parents day and night,instead of being more concerned on how he can change his life for now.This he can do by joining adult education classes.

A man may also be angry with God for creating him amongst a tribe,a people and a family he feels are of a low social,economic and political status.His anger emanates from his wrong thinking.Had he thought rigthly,he would have kown that he can be the hero the people have been waiting for to bring about social,economic and political redemption.

Anger is destructive.Anger ruins happiness and may make one act violently or irresponsibly.Anger confuses the mind.Anger keeps sound reasoning in obscurity when a mind is under its captivity.

Anger when not properly managed can result in hate,jealousy and all manners of revengeful,diabolical and irrational acts.

OVERCOMING ANGER

A major attitude in overcoming anger is to learn of great men who have mastery over anger.The great teacher who lived 2,000 years ago in the land of Israel,Jesus Christ, taught his followers to learn of him,"For I am meek and lowly in heart."

Be ready to unveil the secrets of these meek and lowly gentlemen to whom anger does not exist.{know a gentleman? http://hubpages.com/hub/sixteen-romantic-qualities-of-a-gentleman }

Did I hear you say,it is not possible to live anger free? Well,you can.Think rightly and you will act rightly.Anyway,it is possible you may sense anger, but you can immediately bring it under subjection when you have this mastery of right thinking over it.

Some angry persons have been made mild by exorcism.The religious exorcists claim that some extreme cases of anger are caussed by evil entities possessing the mind of their victims.These evil entities they claim they have successfully expelled from the victims minds.

Nevertheless,learn to speak to yourself boldly,"I AM MILD AND GENTLE" before a mirror.
Your persistent confessions bring about a radical change in your state of mind:you become clothed with meekness and tolerance.

The best exorcist that can expel anger from your mind is "YOU." Brace up.Resolve not to be angry:forgive even when apologies are not forthcoming.

HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS

Many desire good friends without knowing how to attract these friends.Some out of despair
have given up the hope of making true friends leaving everything to chance and time.
A wise man said,'He thatwill make friends must show himself friendly'.
Here lies the secret of making friends:show yourself friendly first.
This you can achieve by:

1.HARBOUR FRIENDLY THOUGHTS

Always see yourself as a lovable person.Imagine seeing sparks of acceptance in the eyes of men.Believe that good friends are still in existence and are ever willing to have a nice fellow like you for a friend.

Listen,this has nothing to do with abundance or lack of material things. Let your creative mind be fully convinced tha you worth more than any material thing.You are a unique being.When you think right ,you act rightly.

A man who shows himself friendly will not harbour malice,envy and any negative emotion towards a fellow man.Negative thoughts invisibly sends repulsive signals that keep men away from you.Positive thoughts attract friends.

2.INTEGRITY

You should be honest in your dealings with men.Let men trust your words and promises.Let your 'yes' be yes, your 'no' be 'no'.Never you mismanage any fund under your custody.You are a man of integrity:so speak and act,if you must make new friends who can help you in your spiritual,mental,family, business and communal life.Also, never you covet another man's belongings,wife or husband.

3.ESTEEM OTHERS

Always appreciate the good works of others, if their admiration you must win.Be constructive and tactful when being critical about their actions or opinions.Do not create an impression of a 'proud and I know it all' man.Speak graciously to others.Let them sense in your speech respect for their persons.As much as possible, break down the walls of social barriers and attract the kind of friends you need.
Always treat others the way you love to be treated.Never treat the next man the way you would not like a friend treat you.
Go,make friends !

CHARACTER STUDY OF A CHAMPION:THE WINNING ATTITUDE

It was a romantic atmosphere in a rural community at the outskirt of a city.
Parents and children in sprightly mood. The open airy field well decorated with christmas trees and fire works display :it is christmas season !
Children's gay voices are heard as they all line up to receive presents from Santa Claus,Father Christmas.
To the amazement of all,a little boy ran into the line dressed only in pants.He became a cynosure to all.They laughed and jeered at him, but he was undeterred from getting to Mr. Santa Claus.He finally did get his presents from Santa Claus.He ran back to the mother who sat amongst friends and relations to show his presents gladly.The mother with eyes wide open said,'Tammy,don't tell me you went to meet Santa Claus wearing only pants?'. Tammy answered,'Am sorry Mom,I soiled my shirt with the delicious canned drink you gave me . I had to take off my shirt for that reason,but Mom,please take a look at my presents'. The mother hesitated,while Tammy still pleaded with her,'please,mom take a look at my presents '.Then she said,'Tammy,these are beautiful, but next time wear your shirt to meet Santa Claus'.

Dear friend, this little boy has a winning attitude you need to be a champion.
Let us see some beautiful qualities or character exhibited by little Tammy.

1.AN UNDERSTANDING ATTITUDE

The little boy had an understanding of what he really needed:"presents" from Santa Claus.To be a champion requires a good understanding of what you truly desire to have or create.You need to understand how to go about it.Little Tammy understood that joining a line will make it posssible for him to see Santa Claus and so he did.He understood the source of acquiring the presents or who the giver of presents is:Santa Claus.So also must you understand and know the source of getting your desire fulfilled or who truly can help you achieve your goal.

2.COURAGE

The little boy had a tough mental attitude that enabled him to ignore any form of shame or intimidation that would have resulted from the mockery by the othr children.
This charactr of his is best descibed as Courage.You need courage to be able to achieve your goal even in the face of criticisms and mockery.Your idea may be excellent,but others may not appreciate it.It is left for you to be courageous enough to see that your idea succeed.It is only then will others begin to believe in you.Do not be deterred from applying your creative ideas which you are convinced will produce good and positive results for you and even the skeptics at the end of the day.To be a champion you must be ready to implement the visions or imaginations of your creative mind not minding the undiscerning and sentimental opinions of the many.Succeed in your vision and hear the skeptics change the critical statements to eulogy.

3.GOOD SELF-ESTEEM

From our story the little boy never felt inferior.He did not suffer from low self-esteem.It was true he had only his pants on without a shirt,yet he was able to get presents from Santa Claus.
Low self-esteem is a destructive moth on your mental life.Value yourself!
Your colour,race,education etc. should not make you feel inferior in the midst of others.If you must excel your mind must appreciate the fact that she can achieve what she desires.Value yourself and you will boldly pursue your goal in business,sports and any other areas of life.That you could not achieve your plan yesterday is no reason to think you can not succeed today.
Have a good self-esteem not low self-esteem or an excessive self-esteem which results in pride and arrogance which are offensive stains on your character.

4.HUMILITY IN SUCCESS

Little boy Tammy despite being successful in getting presents from Santa Claus was humble to say to the mother 'sorry' for not wearing his shirt before meeting Santa Claus.Friend,you need humility in success.Don't allow your success make you rude to friends and neighbours.Despite your success accept your mistakes when pointed out to you.Humility makes you attractive to many.Humility portrays you as a responsible soul.

Dear Friend,may you be clothed with these winning attitude as I SEE YOU IN THE CHARACTERBUILDING PALACE OF GOLD.

CHARACTER BUILDING:HOW TO BUILD A NOBLE CHARACTER

A Man's Value Lies In His Character.

As The Mirror Reflects A Man's Face,

The Character Reflects The Personality.

Character is the moral and mental qualities seen and observed in a person.Character can also be described as attitude,behaviour and manners.
As human faces are different and unique,so also the various human character each exhibits.
Character is as unique as a finger print.A society is judged by the character of her citizens.If the citizens are humane,then the society is a humane society.If the citizens are unfriendly and hostile,the society is said to be unfriendly and hostile.For this reason,it is necessary that the character of a society be properly built.
To have a society with a well built character image or reputation,the individual character matters most.Build an individual's character,build a society.
Different agencies have been saddled with the responsibility of building man's character.Such agencies are schools,religious organizations and character-building organizations.They all strive to see that man develops a noble character worthy of emulation.They do this through teachings,seminars and character orientation programmes and workshops.
It is expected that a good educational system should be able to make the student a law abiding citizen worthy in learning and character.
Education devoid of noble character is like a lifeless human body:the society feels the pain and anguish of heart.The society becomes robbed of her happiness.
Nevertheless,as an individual, let us consider how you can build a noble character.

HOW CAN I BUILD A NOBLE CHARACTER?
Your character is like a flower seed in your hands.You are to plant the seed in a fertile ground.You water it and nurture it with the necessary manure to help it grow.You watch over it against pests and diseases attacks.
When your flower finally sprouts up displaying its magnificent beauty,you end up rejoicing for a job well done.
My friend,society will celebrate you when you you become a paragon of virtue.
The following steps will help you build that noble character you so much dream and cherish:

i) SELF-REALIZATION
Self-realization is necessary if you must build your character.You must realize that you can be whom you want to be .You must be mentally prepared to accept the great potentials in you which when used will make you great,noble and admirable to others.
For each day you live,you notice that the needed oxygen for your existence is always there for you.In the same way are these great potentials in you always there,except that you have to make conscientious efforts to think and act properly.
Do not ever think you can not be honest and truthful, no matter how dishonest your mind may accuse you of being.
Do not ever think you can not break free from drug addiction,use of abusive language,anger and any other character defect.
Tell yourself you can.Your "Will Power" is a precious seed, why not sow it into "I Can Do It" fertile soil,and see your character change tremendously?
What makes you think you cannot be amiable, kind,bold,decent and lovable to the level of being seen as a "Moral Role Model",(MRM),in your neighbourhood and community?
If you think you can not ,then you can not.Your mind could be the barrier to your forming a pleasant character or the key to your success in this journey of character building.

ii) SELF-EVALUATION
Do well to write down those qualities in your life you consider to be your strength and weaknesses.
Be sincere to your conscience as you write the list of "My Strength And The Weaknesses'.You may be baffled to find out a character defect which in the first place,should not have been in your life,but is now existing.Do not feel bad:just make a change.
Ask yourself some questions such as,how long have I been living this way?How come this quality in me?Did I develop this character based on the influence of my parents,guardians,family or friends?This character of mine I consider as my strength,is it really so,when a second party judges me? What practical steps can I take to strengthen my areas of "strength" and overcome the "weaknesses"? Of what benefit will my character building exercise be to me and the society?
Have you noticed that I refer to "My Strength" and "The Weaknesses" not "My Weaknesses"?
Well,don't feed your mind with the notion that the observed character defect is an integral part of you. To say "my weakness" would imply that it is an integral part of you.Since these percieved mental and moral weaknesses can be done away with, the way you can discard your old oil from your engine replacing it with new oil,so also you can transform your character to a noble one.These weaknesses are not inborn into your cells:YOU ACQUIRED THEM, SO CAN YOU CHANGE THEM!

iii)SELF-IMPROVEMENT
Engage in self-improvement exercises after self-evaluation.
You can ask close friends to honestly write a brief report about your character as percieved by them.In their write-ups,they should also proffer solutions to these mental and moral weaknesses which they have observed.On your part ,you should endeavour to consider the various remarks and make necessary character improvement based on the recommendations.However,you must be the unbiased judge,not necessarily your friends.You have your life to live.Not all recommendations may be necessary,since people reason differently concerning certain issues of life.Be sincere to yourself, you won't err.
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Read books related to character building.Study the character of some renown men to emulate the good nature you see in them,avoiding their errors.
Always speak out loudly to yourself about the new nature or character you long to have.Assuming you want to do away with telling lies,why not hold your tongue and say to youself,"This is a truthful tongue"?
Are you easily provoked? Then say to yourself,"I am A Mild Man".
Do not underestimate your "new character confession",it works !